Dear Abby: I’m irritated my fiancé's daughter keeps adjusting car seat

Abby offers advice to a reader upset that her fiancé's daughter won't stop adjusting the front passenger seat, even though she only rides in it for a short time once or twice a month. (Jake May | MLive.com)Jake May

Dear Abby: Is it rude to move the front passenger seat in a car if you are only going to be in it for a short time? My fiancé and I have been together nine years. I don’t own a car, so he takes me everywhere, and I have the passenger seat adjusted perfectly.

When his 17-year-old daughter, who is only in the car once a month or so, gets in his car, the first thing she does is move the passenger seat. We are about the same height and weight, and I see no need for her to do it when she’s in the car for only 20 minutes or so.

My fiancé refuses to ask her to leave the seat where it is, but I feel she’s being disrespectful and that he should say something to her about it. Please help. This is causing a lot of arguments and hurt feelings.

-- Aggravated Passenger

Dear Aggravated: I’ll try. If you value the relationship you have with your fiancé of NINE YEARS, stop sniping at his daughter and adjust the seat to its original position ONCE A MONTH when you enter the car. This isn’t a competition over who he prefers, so stop trying to turn it into one.

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